Dear expecting mother,
I just want to say thank you. Thank you for finding your way to reading this, thank you for considering helping others build a family, and thank you for researching the best options for your baby.
I’m a dad, through adoption, and without that gift my life would be empty compared to the joy my daughter Ruby has brought me! Personally, I can’t really imagine your thought process completely; I’m a man who could never find myself with the decisions you have to make. My life has been made richer and happier than I had ever hoped because a woman like yourself decided to give me the gift of having a daughter of my own.
When I started the adoption process it was daunting to say the least. I actually had someone in a faith-based agency yell at me “why would any woman want to give a child to YOU?!?” “what could you possibly have to offer?!?” Those words struck me harder than I could have imagined. I actually stopped looking to adopt for years after that interaction because I believed no one would ever give me a chance to be a father. That experience is what led me to build RUBY’S LISTS in the first place; to help others find a smoother and more open path to building their families.
It’s hard to describe how proud I am when one of my daughter’s teachers tells me how much they love having Ruby in their class. How ‘ideal’ a student and little citizen she is… how happy and caring she is to others in her class. That affirmation from people who know me and my daughter makes struggling through the judgmental discouragement in the beginning more than worth it. I love my daughter and I, like any other parent, do everything I can to help her be a happy, kind and well-adjusted person. As I say all the time, I feel like the luckiest guy on earth because of Ruby!
But none of this works without women like you. Without your kindness and gift, many families would never come to be… thank you for even considering an adoptive family, there’s a lot of love out in the world looking for a place to give it. You are the start of everything for families like ours. Use the lists provided here to reach out to adoption professionals who can help you make the best choices for you and your baby and take some time to read the information here for insights into what wonderful and loving families LGBTQ people make!
Again, I can’t say thank you enough!